Meet Tobias & Claire

“No matter your journey to reach this point, we are proud of you. Your strength to consider such a deep sacrifice and precious gift is admirable. We’re honored that you would consider us to parent your baby."
Tobias & Claire

Dear Expectant Mother,

Hello! We’re so glad you’re here, reading this. No matter your journey to reach this point, we are proud of you. Your strength to consider such a deep sacrifice and precious gift is admirable. We’re honored that you would consider us to parent your baby.

You must be in such a difficult position. You’re going through something we never experienced; the big emotions, all the options available to you, the impossible task of trying to think through the future. It must be very overwhelming. We’re very glad you’re in a supportive place now, with people that can help you process through everything.

A bit about our story. We had 2 miscarriages early in our marriage, but had 2 children a few years later. We started waiting for adoption in 2021. At that time, we were open to having more biological children too. But in 2023, we had an accidental pregnancy that ended in a traumatic miscarriage. The loss made us realize that the only way forward for us right now is adoption. Still, for us, adoption isn’t a baby filling a hole. We are a stable home, and are ready to welcome a new family member wholeheartedly.

If you choose to place your baby with us, we would absolutely love to have an open relationship with you, if you want. We are committed to keeping as much contact as you and the child want. If you want a closed adoption, we would honor that.

As we get to know each other, we’d figure out the exact details of our ongoing relationship. We’d love to send you updates or pictures, or have visits. If it makes you comfortable, we could communicate only through Deaconess, but we hope to have independent communication with you as we all get more familiar with each other.

We’d love to hear more about you. Your child is a part of you, and you are a part of your child, and loving that child means loving you, too! We’ve been praying for you both, and we’re looking forward to praying for you by name.

 

Toby, Claire, Willa and Martin