Meet Nate & Allison

“We cannot begin to imagine what these past few weeks or months have been like for you, but we wanted to say that we admire you for your courage in what must be a difficult situation. The amount of love you must have for your child to go through this for him or her is truly amazing."
Nate & Allison

Dear Birth Parent,

Hello! We are Nate, Allison, and our little boy Adrian. Thank you for taking the time to look over our profile. We are deeply grateful for your consideration. We cannot begin to imagine what these past few weeks or months have been like for you, but we wanted to say that we admire you for your courage in what must be a difficult situation. The amount of love you must have for your child to go through this for him or her is truly amazing.

So, a little about us. Nate was born in Missouri, but grew up in Arizona. He want to college in Oregon and then served in the Marines in California. A few other states also popped in along the way for good measure, until he finally ended up in Oklahoma. Allison, on the other hand, was born and raised in Enid, Oklahoma. She graduated from Southwestern Oklahoma State University and then from Seminole State University. We finally met in 2016 and were married two years later. Adrian was born in November of 2020. The pregnancy was hard on Allison. So much so that she remained hospitalized for a week afterwards and required a pacemaker before going home. Were it not for the seriousness of the situation, it would have been rather comical. The heart hospital does not see many newborns, and our room was a popular destination for the nurses on duty. We had always planned on having more children, but Allison’s heart doctor advised against her getting pregnant again. The next year was a splendid mix of pain and joy. We delighted in our new son and poured our love onto him. However, every milestone that Adrian achieved and every pregnancy announcement we received was a reminder of what cost we had paid. After much prayer and discussion with parents we began to explore adoption. Nate’s best friend was adopted, as were several members of our church. The couple that takes our family pictures as well as our wedding pictures are adoptive parents of two children. We came to them with lots of questions, which they patiently answered. Those conversations and a friend’s recommendation lead us to Deaconess.

Now that we have told you about us generally, we imagine you would like to know more specifically about us as parents. We try hard to be active in our son’s life. We bought passes to the zoo and to the Science Museum, so we could have places to take him and experience things together. We eat dinner around the table as a family and make sure to come together before bed to read stories and say good night. We have been blessed with the opportunity to take several trips as a family including to Oregon, Nevada, and Missouri. When we are just at home together, Adrian is usually playing in the living room or helping Allison in the kitchen. We have tried introducing him to bicycles, but so far he does not have interest in peddling. We let Adrian explore and learn about the world. We make sure he does not get in too much trouble, but he has skinned a knee or two and gotten his hands dirty in the process. We also have been blessed with a good support system. Allison’s parents live 15 minutes away, and Nate’s parents live 30 minutes away. We spend a lot of time with them, and Allison’s parents help watch Adrian while we work. We also attend a church with several other couples with young children. Often we will each lunch together after church, so the kids can play together. We also see them outside of church such as going to the zoo or the local splash-pad.

We want you to know that even though you are going through the adoption plan, it is not our intention that be the end of your relationship. We will not push you beyond what you are comfortable with and this will need to be an ongoing and evolving conversation as the child ages, but we do not you to be a stranger. May God be with you and hold you tight on this journey and help lead you to the correct family to adopt your child. Thank you again for your consideration.

 

Sincerely,

Nate and Allison