Embryo Adoption - Oklahoma

Embryo Adoption Frequently Asked Questions

What are you requirements for adoptive families

  • Married, man and wife, for a minimum of two years if it is the first marriage for both and for five years if either has been married previously
  • Minimum 21 years of age and no older than 45 at the time of application
  • Meet medical criteria for embryo transfer
  • All prospective adoptive parents must be actively involved in a Christ-centered church of their choosing

How long will we have to wait to be matched with a donor?

This is a difficult question to answer in some respects. The beginning part of the process takes 3-6 months to complete including application, medical clearance to carry a baby to term, training, and home study.  From there, the timeframe is more unknown as families may wait a variable amount of time to be chosen by a donor family.  Additionally, there are varying success levels of pregnancy after the embryo is transferred so it may take families multiple rounds of transfers to achieve pregnancy.  Once the baby is born, DPA will provide post-placement visits at one month and one year to support the family in the transition.


What is the cost?

The total cost for an embryo adoption may vary slightly as you will pay fees directly to the fertility clinic for the medical side of the process as well as the costs of pregnancy and delivery through your insurance. DPA fees will total $9,000 and include all legal fees and agency services.  The average cost for the fertility clinic services are approximately $6,000 though DPA has no control over the amount of these fees.  Fees are billed throughout the process and are not due in one lump sum.  Please see the Embryo Adoption Fee Agreement in the application documents for a breakdown of fees.


Do you place with families out-of-state?

Yes! We are licensed in every state.  Out-of-state families must be willing to come to Oklahoma for pre-placement training.  In addition, an approved home study and post-placement provider will need to be found in your home state.  Travel to the fertility clinic for transfer may also be needed.


Can we choose our child's gender?

We do not allow gender preference of embryos.


What preferences are we allowed to state?

You are able to state the number of embryos you are interested in adopting as well as their racial background. You may also preference whether you are open to severe mental illness or specific genetic issues in the family history.  Please see the Information on Embryo You Wish to Adopt page in the application documents for more information on what preferences adoptive parents state.


What is an open adoption?

We love this question! Open adoption means that there is some form of contact or relationship between the donor and adoptive family after placement.  Adoptions can range from closed to semi-open to fully open.

We believe openness is in the best interest of all parties as it gives children access to information about their heritage and donor family and allows for more people that love the child to be part of their lives.  It is not co-parenting and does not mean that the donor family has daily contact.  How the child views their biological heritage and family will impact their view of who they are and openness allows for a more holistic view of that.  It also allows for ongoing connection between biological siblings.  Significant research has been done showing the positive impact of openness on all involved.

Below is a brief description of the range of options available.

  • A closed or confidential adoption means there is no exchange of identifying information and you do not meet the donor family. Closed adoptions are very rare and are facilitated at the request of the donor family only.
  • A semi-open adoption means you stay connected with your donor family with the agency as a mediator. This arrangement involves the exchange of pictures, emails or letters, and often involves visits.
  • A fully open adoption involves ongoing contact and visits with the donor family without the agency as a mediator. This type of relationship usually evolves over time, typically beginning as a semi-open adoption.